Summer After Freshman Year – Parent Edition


Dear Parents of a College Freshman,

Congratulations! Your child has survived their first year of college, even if it was just barely. Now they are packing up their dorm rooms, saying goodbye to friends, and selling textbooks for gas money to come home. While you are probably ecstatic to have your baby back home, your baby is probably facing some anxiety about summer break. There is no way in the world I will ever claim to know anything about parenting, however, I do want to share some thoughts you may or may not find helpful as you adjust to your child being back home.

·      Your student is tired – I realize they need a job, sleep until noon, and eat everything in your house AND they’ve done it three days in a row. You’re right, they probably are being lazy, but try to remember they just finished a week of finals. This probably meant at least one or two all night cramming and paper writing sessions, drinking way too much coffee, and eating way too much junk food. Then they had to pack up their entire home they’ve known for the school year and cram it in their little car. Give them a little space to rest and then kindly tell them to get a job.
·      Point out the positive – Some students go home convinced that their summer is going to be miserable because their parents are going to tell them what to do at every waking moment. They’ve automatically tuned their ears in to only hear the negative.  Catch them off guard with some positive reinforcement and encouragement. Thank them when they’ve helped around the house or praise them when you can actually see a part of their bedroom floor. It may take some time but eventually their ears won’t be listening for just the negative.
·      Communicate expectations – Your child has spent the entire school year making their own decisions about how to spend their time and resources. They may not have always been the best choices, but they aren’t use to having to tell someone where they are going all the time and what they are doing. Clearly communicate to them from the beginning of the summer what you expect them to do around the house and if they need your permission to go places.
·      Remember they are watching you – You are more aware than anyone else that your child is still learning and developing independence.  Be a good model of relationships, wise choices, and communications. They notice how you respond in situations and looking to you to understand how to practice their independence well. Be patient when they fall short. It is going to happen.

I know you love your child very much. Enjoy the time you have with them this summer. It always goes faster than you think it should.

Mega-Tour 2012 | God Working Upstream

(For those of you who don't know, Brett is on staff with Impact Campus Ministries. We are in the process of raising the funds in order to do full time campus ministry in Salt Lake City, Utah. This is a sweet story of God's provision for us to get to the mission field soon. To learn more read our story)


Big Things Happening!
Like any move, whether across town or across the globe, everyone needs to find a new place to live. From the beginning of this journey with Impact, we have been praying about what kind of place we would be calling home and trying to envision where that home would be. There were many times that these prayers seemed premature, but we trusted and believed that when the time was right, those prayers, having reached God's ears, would have accumulated into one monstrous cry for the right place to come our way. After this trip and a God-orchestrated meeting with some friends, we believe God has given us an opportunity that answers those prayers for the perfect housing situation in Salt Lake City.

We have been presented with a 2-bedroom/1 bath, 1100 square ft. apartment in the Sugar House area of the city that we could move into in August of this year. Not only is the timing perfect, as we would be there at the beginning of the new school year, but the location is also a perfect answer to our request to God to live in this specific area. It would also be a perfect location for our daily needs. It is a 10-minute drive to the University of Utah, 8 minutes from our team leaders, Tommy and Jennifer White's house, and approximately 10 minutes from the downtown area. It is also ideal, in that we will already have in-roads with the neighbors in the other 3 units and be able to continue building some relationships that have already been established. But wait, there's more! On top of that, the amount of rent we would need to pay fits perfectly into our budget AND we did nothing to pursue this. We see this opportunity as a gift that our Heavenly Father has literally dropped into our laps, wrapped up and tied with a pretty bow, and now He is just waiting for us to do the hard work to unwrap it. 

How You Can Help!
In order to move and take hold of what we believe to be a God-orchestrated opportunity, we have to be 100% supported in the next 3 months. We are currently at only 50% (even typing that seems a little bit daunting). In the depths of our hearts, we know that nothing is impossible with God, the One who called us to this very ministry a year and a half ago! 
We humbly ask you to pray and ask God if this ministry to college students in Salt Lake City, Utah is something that you can financially support on a monthly basis. Many of you have been gracious and supportive by contributing special financial gifts to our ministry efforts, and please know that we are extremely grateful for those gifts. Our greatest need, however, is to have people join our support team with whatever monthly amount you feel led to contribute. We pray that God will place a burden on your heart, just as He has done with us, to partner with Impact Campus Ministries to further His Kingdom through ministry with college students. As always and above everything else, we greatly appreciate and value your prayers on our behalf and know that without them we could not do what God has called us to do. Please be praying about how you can be a part of us getting to our mission field by August. There is still a lot of work for us to do in order for us to reach that goal, but we are SO ready! Curious how we got to where we are, read our story.


If you'd like to set up a tax deductible, monthly gift, please go to our secure online donation page.
You can also send a check to with "Brett Ricley" in the memo line to:
Impact Campus Ministries
PO Box82925
Tampa, FL 33682 


Summer After Freshman Year – Student Edition


Dear College Freshman,

Congratulations! You finished your first year of college, which most likely means you are now actually a sophomore. I’m sure you are glad to be done with early morning classes, writing papers, and taking finals, but I’m guessing you are also sad you will be leaving your new friends. It might even be safe to say you are experiencing some anxiety or nerves about returning home to live with you parents.  Now I don’t claim to be an expert in this area, but I’ve been there. So, I thought I would give you some advice that might come in handy this summer.

·      Obey the house rules – Yes, I know you aren’t a child, but it is still their house.  It might be inconvenient and mostly annoying. You will probably feel at times like you are 12 years old again. It is only a few months and sets a great example for your younger siblings. Yes that means you can’t whine about it then!
·      Help around the house – It doesn’t matter if you had chores or not before you went to college. Simply lending a hand around the house can speak volumes to your parents. They may never say anything to you, but I bet they notice.
·      Communicate!– I’m well aware while you were at college you got to decide what you would do and when you would do it. My guess is it won’t take long before you decide to do something and your parents get upset because you didn’t ask them first. There are a few “tricks” that can help in this area. Instead of saying “I’m going to go…” try “I was thinking about…” or “I want to…does that work with your schedule?” If you start your summer this way, by the end of the summer your parents MAY even tell you there isn’t any need to ask as long as they know where you are.
·      Remember this is hard for them too – Your parents have spent the entire school year with you out of the house and worrying about how you are doing at college. Now their baby is back home and they can breathe a sigh of relief that they know what you are doing.  Just as you are learning to navigate your own life, they are learning how to let you grow up. The bottom line is they love and care for you. Give them a break.
·      Honor your father and mother – Come on! It is one of the Ten Commandments. Remember the choices you make this summer will affect your parents and the amount of tension you will have to live with while you are home. Love them. Honor them.

Enjoy your summer break and the time you have with your family. The books will be calling your name before you know it.

Summer After Freshman Year – Student Edition


Dear College Freshman,

Congratulations! You finished your first year of college, which most likely means you are now actually a sophomore. I’m sure you are glad to be done with early morning classes, writing papers, and taking finals, but I’m guessing you are also sad you will be leaving your new friends. It might even be safe to say you are experiencing some anxiety or nerves about returning home to live with you parents.  Now I don’t claim to be an expert in this area, but I’ve been there. So, I thought I would give you some advice that might come in handy this summer.

·      Obey the house rules – Yes, I know you aren’t a child, but it is still their house.  It might be inconvenient and mostly annoying. You will probably feel at times like you are 12 years old again. It is only a few months and sets a great example for your younger siblings. Yes that means you can’t whine about it then!
·      Help around the house – It doesn’t matter if you had chores or not before you went to college. Simply lending a hand around the house can speak volumes to your parents. They may never say anything to you, but I bet they notice.
·      Communicate!– I’m well aware while you were at college you got to decide what you would do and when you would do it. My guess is it won’t take long before you decide to do something and your parents get upset because you didn’t ask them first. There are a few “tricks” that can help in this area. Instead of saying “I’m going to go…” try “I was thinking about…” or “I want to…does that work with your schedule?” If you start your summer this way, by the end of the summer your parents MAY even tell you there isn’t any need to ask as long as they know where you are.
·      Remember this is hard for them too – Your parents have spent the entire school year with you out of the house and worrying about how you are doing at college. Now their baby is back home and they can breathe a sigh of relief that they know what you are doing.  Just as you are learning to navigate your own life, they are learning how to let you grow up. The bottom line is they love and care for you. Give them a break.
·      Honor your father and mother – Come on! It is one of the Ten Commandments. Remember the choices you make this summer will affect your parents and the amount of tension you will have to live with while you are home. Love them. Honor them.

Enjoy your summer break and the time you have with your family. The books will be calling your name before you know it.

Summer After Freshman Year Blog Series


College freshman often find themselves with mixed emotions at this time of the school year. They have survived their first year of college and are getting ready to head back home to spend the next few months with their parents. That first summer can be an incredibly challenging time for both students and parents. This week I'm wanted to share a few thoughts for students, parents and youth ministers that might help the challenges the summer months bring.

Feel free to join the conversation this week. Share your "summer after freshman year" stories or things you learned about those college summer months.

Semester Ending

With the Spring Semester coming to a close with finals, ImpactU will take a breather for much of May.

When our summer schedule gets going you’ll receive weekly updates on Bible Studies and other activities.

We look forward to getting together with you and encouraging you in your faith journey.


Week of Ministry | Salt Lake City | 2012



Each year Nebraska Christian College (my alumni college) requires all of its students to participate in a short term missions trip somewhere around the globe. Destinations range from New Orleans, China, Honduras and even Salt Lake City, Utah.

This year I had the unique and wonderful opportunity to help facilitate Nebraska Christian College's (NCC) Week of Ministry in Salt Lake City, UT (SLC) through my organization, Impact Campus Ministries. This was the fourth year in a row that NCC has brought a group out to SLC under the direction of David Haynes, Preaching Professor at NCC.

This year was full of exciting opportunities for the nine students and two faculty members to see first hand why Utah, and SLC specifically is a prime mission field in need of more workers.

Upon arrival on Sunday, April 22, the NCC students participated with me in serving a local church plant in Lehi, UT called The Journey. Along with leading worship that morning, we served in their children's ministry as well as set up and tore down everything needed for services since they're renting a local dance theater on the weekends. On Monday we participated in a six hour prayer vigil called "The Burn" held at the University of Utah's Post Chapel (pictured right). There was live worship music, Scripture reading, prayer and meditation from 3pm - 9pm non stop. It was a great opportunity for students to connect with God on campus as well as prayer walk around the University campus and pray for students, faculty and campus ministry in general.


Tuesday proved to be a huge opportunity as well for myself and the NCC students. One of the things that we value as a ministry organization is respect and love. Over the years, my team leaders Tommy & Jennifer have been able to connect with a gentleman named Greg Johnson who works for Standing Together Ministries. Greg's goal is to promote Inter-Faith dialogue especially between Evangelical Christians and the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints (LDS). The NCC students were a part of Standing Togethers' program called "A Mormon and an Evangelical in Conversation".  NCC students were privileged to take a tour of Temple Square, where the first and most sacred temple sits along with the famed Mormon Tabernacle as well as other buildings holding significant LDS history. Along with the detailed tour, we were able to have a special luncheon, hosted by the LDS Church, in  Brigham Young's original house (Lion's House picture left) in downtown SLC. There we dialogued further with LDS officials and Public Relations employees and capped the luncheon off with an incredible conversation with Elder Marcus Nash, part of the Quorum of 70. Elder Nash was very well received as well as humble, respectful and very delighted by our thoughtful questions. 
Me, Tommy White, Matt Doubet and
NCC Students with Mormon Temple
in background


It truly was a great experience for both parties and the students were able to hear first hand, from a General Authority, what the LDS Church believes about proxy baptism, eternal life/heaven and even political issues such as Mitt Romney running for president. In addition to this awesome opportunity, students also went to the Institute of Religion that is located at the University of Utah and had the chance to dialogue with LDS students in a similar fashion. Overall, NCC students were shown that the most effective and Christlike way to engage others of differing religious views is through mutual respect, love and grace.


On Wednesday morning, we helped a student that's involved in Impact's college group move from one apartment to another. This was a simple yet powerful way of being Christ to a fellow believer. With all of us there, we emptied an entire apartment in 20 minutes and had the truck unloaded in about 20 more minutes at the new place! After this quick project, we took the students to a local house to introduce them to Holding Out Help. Holding Out Help is a non-profit organization in Utah that assists those that wish to leave a polygamist community. This was a special opportunity because we got to hear first hand from a young man that grew up in Colorado City, AZ, one of the most highly populated areas of polygamy in the western half of the U.S. There are estimated to be over 10,000 people living in polygamy there and most being affiliated somehow with the Fundamentalist Latter Day Saint (FLDS) sect that broke away from the original LDS movement in the early 1900's. The young man's testimony was powerful to say the least. From growing up with two mothers and being the oldest of 18 children, to having 12 foot concrete walls all around his house, to never leaving the community until his escape almost two years ago at age 26. 


His stories were heart-wrenching and at times filled most of us with anger at the intense injustice he suffered for 26 years. By God's grace, this young man had the courage to leave the community for good and found Holding Out Help and he stated that his life has never been the same since. Since his escape, he has come to faith is Jesus and is an immersed believer in the Christian faith, is working to get back into society and has secured a good job as well as many friends. His story is only one of thousands. There are so many people still experiencing slavery through polygamy, not to mention a lack of education, abuse, brain washing and isolation of the worst kind. Please check out Holding Out Help to learn more or watch this short video.
Me, John and Mirijam Curry and the NCC group
after the moving service project

One of the best parts of a week like this is it gets college students, even Bible college students, outside of their normal "comfort zone" and forces them to see the world from a different perspective. Utah is unique in that it's the only state with such a heavy LDS influence along with Polygamy, not to mention the lack of Christian churches that are so prevalent here in the Bible belt. Students were really challenged by Salt Lake City and some even had thoughts of coming back to Utah for future Week of Ministry trips as well as doing ministry there someday! One student wrote this about her Week of Ministry experience in SLC:

"This was one of the best weeks of my life! Making this decision to go to Utah was extremely difficult for me, but I literally felt God almost demanding that I went. So, I submitted and went.
When we arrived in Utah we stayed at the church (Southeast Christian Church) where I met really amazing men and women of God. Like Tommy, Jennifer, Brett, Matt, and so many more. These peoples' hearts are on fire for God and its truly inspiring. One of the things that really touched me while in Utah, was just the spiritual aspect. You can literally feel it and see it going on! I heard so many amazing testimonies of young lives that have been saved and touched by these Christian groups (Impact, Holding out Help, etc.). God is truly on the move!"

For me personally, it was an honor to serve NCC and Impact in seeing these college students explore the world and see it from a new perspective. It was great to see students realizing the great need for more people to do ministry in Utah (I must say I'm biased though!).

If you're interested in who Impact Campus Ministries is check out our website. You can also read why I chose Impact Campus Ministries as the organization I want to spend my years doing campus ministry with.












Are you promoting construction, or initiating collapse? (#campusministry #dminlgp)

Last week I posted some thoughts on global warming as I considered a book I had read on the topic. This week I want to follow up on that post as I reflect on Jared Diamond's book, Collapse: How Societies Choose to Fail or Succeed.

Diamond presents an interesting examination of both ancient and modern societies that have, for various reasons, collapsed. Often the reasons for any one nation's collapse are multi-faceted, but Diamond recognizes five significant paths to destruction:

  1. Damage done by a society on their environment
  2. Climate change (not necessarily the result of human activity)
  3. Hostile neighbors (related to military action, as well as economic or political activity)
  4. Decreased support from friendly trade partners 
  5. Lack of response to approaching societal problems

Of course, we have probably all studied the fall of the Roman Empire at some point in our education. In this example, Rome crumbled under the weight of several factors--increased pressure from hostile neighbors and a lack of a response from approaching problems to name the most significant. In a way, Rome fell as a result of its great success. Growth beyond a sustainable level occurred within an environment lacking the presence of an appropriate response to the problems that existed.

Fast forward to today, and the more I consider the consumer culture I am living in, the more problems I see for our future as we remain on this path. Is it really reasonable to conclude that we can continuously expand our economy through consumption? At some point, as the number of people on earth increase, and as resources decrease, a "collapse" (of some variety) logically must occur.

Crane_collapse

I'm forced to ponder why it is, then, that we continue along such a path.

Speaking for myself, if I am really honest, I suppose there is this thought within me that says, "It's someone else's problem to deal with at some point in the distant future...I need to get what I can get now, while the getting is good." 

Here are two conclusions I can make as a result of that statement:

First, mine is a pretty selfish stance, from any perspective.

Second, if we don't choose to address our problems, our young people will reap the consequences of our lack of response.

I talk about our individualistic society quite often in this blog, typically critiquing how it promotes selfishness and self-seeking behavior. But allow me to take another perspective today.

Our individualistic and capitalistic context has led to great technological achievements (though I'm speaking of "individualistic" as inspired and free individuals who cooperate with one another toward good ends), and modern technology has given us the ability to communicate across continents. Therefore, as Diamond suggests, we live in a time like no other in history. We actually have the capability to not only identify any impending danger on the path before us, but to communicate that danger efficiently and effectively--and to do so on a global level. This is something that past societies did not have at their disposal. They did not have the ability to understand their world as we do, and to develop responses as a global community, communicating those responses to the masses at the speed of a tweet!

Our future intrigues me. Students on our college campuses are preparing to engage a world like no other generation before has ever seen. They have incredible opportunities! Yet without encouragement and direction, I suspect they will simply follow our lead, and ignore their problems until a crisis is upon them. At that point, it may be too late.

As a leader, I must model for our young generation a selfless lifestyle--one that looks far into the future and responds appropriately. I cannot afford, in spite of what my culture allows, to be short-sighted in the way I live my life. I can choose to care about the future, and to care about others. I can use my energy and intellect to lead boldly--to promote construction rather than to initiate collapse.

 

 

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The view from my front curb (#dminlgp #campusministry)

Oilrig
I just returned from a trip to Texas's Permian Basin to do some research and promotion as Impact considers planting a new campus ministry team in the Midland-Odessa area. For those of you who don't know, oil was discovered in this land back in 1923, and now the Permian Basin provides one-fifth of the nation's oil and natural gas output.

A bit ironic, but I had just finished reading a book on global warming for my doctoral studies. Honestly, I've just never given a whole lot of thought to the topic. Al Gore visited Boise State University a couple of years ago, and a lot (no, a LOT) of students attended...but I'm pretty sure I had something else to do that day that just seemed more urgent to me than the topic of global warming (though I don't recall what that "something" was).

[Incidentally, the Midland-Odessa area is in the midst of a severe drought...no rain for about a year. Upon arrival, I complained at the state of our rental car, as it clearly had not been washed. Oops...no water for washing cars. "Bill, you need to think a bit more before opening your big mouth."]

As I was on my flight headed home last night, I thought I would take a look at what some of my study cohorts were saying about the book we had all read together, Mark Maslin's Global Warming: A Very Short Introduction. I came across Glenn Williams' blog post and thought I would share it with you.

Glenn authors an excellent blog on leadership. I've started recommending it to more and more of you who are in campus ministry. Glenn always has incredibly keen insights into the way personal virtues intersect and inspire leadership activity. His thoughts are simple, yet far from simplistic.

Case in point: He used Dr. Seuss to uncover my self-seeking attitude in this most recent post. It doesn't get much more simple than Dr. Seuss (yet he still found a way to footnote a couple of heavyweights).

I can identify with Glenn when he talks about his rather indifferent attitude toward global warming. No, I have not ignored the fact that I have a role in helping to protect the environment, but my involvement probably hasn't gone much farther than the walk to the front curb of the sidewalk on Tuesday morning to set out the recycle bin (actually, come to think of it, my wife usually makes that walk). Oh, and I did take another big step a couple of months ago by downsizing to one very fuel-efficient car, and making a commitment to drive less.

But, is that enough? No...probably not. I tend to only do simple and easy things that make me feel good, but don't get in the way of my continued comfort. Yep, there it is...that self-seeking attitude rearing its ugly head again.

As Maslin points out, the issue of global warming does have a strong scientific backing. The evidence that he points to is worth a look--if for no other reason than the potentially staggering implications on the future of our world assuming global warming is indeed a valid issue. But get ready to squirm a bit. The conversation on the topic exposes huge economic and political ramifications for our consumerist society if we really are to take global warming seriously. We live in a world that believes the pursuit of indivudual desires is sovereign--that MY desires and MY happiness is all that really matters--and I wonder if this type of attitude is conducive to addressing the global warming issue.

In the field of campus ministry we see that students are indeed concerned about their world. I'm glad that they are, and we need to provide opportunities for them to engage in the various conversations that are taking place. Honestly, the postmodern worldview contributes positively to students' thinking on this topic. There is a growing desire among the younger generations to be more community-minded. This is an excellent opportunity to demonstrate how God's desire for us, as His people, is to live in peace with others and in harmony with His creation.

This means, as leaders, we need to also do our homework and identify daily activities that will demonstrate our desire to care for the world. We need to look beyond our own self to identify how our actions impact the world around us. To change the world in positive ways is as simple as taking small steps forward each day--to the front curb of the sidewalk, and beyond.

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For more reading on this topic, check out a blog by my doctoral colleague, Russ Pierson, who is writing his dissertation on the topic of Christianity and environmentalism.

 

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The Unloveable

Love us such a misunderstood word.  We actually throw it around so casually that it becomes hard to define at times.  Truth be told, I do it.  I love baseball, specifically the Reds.  I love Five Guys Burgers and Fries, (sounds good even for breakfast!)  However, as I read Matthew 5:43-48 it is clear that love is so much more than simply a favorite sports team or food.  It really is part of the foundation to a functioning community.

Community is a big thing in campus ministry.  One of the struggles that college students face is that they will sacrifice the quality of community in order to find a place to belong, a group that will love them and accept them.  When we choose to love, when we choose to pray for our enemies, people who oppose our viewpoint, or even just people who make us uncomfortable we begin to build a community that people will want to be a part of.  Even if they are not really looking for any religious connection.  If they feel accepted it will open their hearts to hear the truth that can only comes through Christ.

Students are smart, they can spot fakes a mile away.  It is easy to love the loveable, it in loving the unloveable where real ministry takes place.


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